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The Interdisciplinary Work of Lyss Warmland.

Posts tagged #grief

Check out my interview with Shayne Traviss!

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We talk about:
– What it means to live a radically authentic life
– The trauma-based patterns that keep us stuck in suffering
– Grief and how to live through it
and so much more!

Get his book, “Your Vivid Life: An Invitation to Live a Radically Authentic Life” here!
Follow him on IG @shaynetraviss and @YourVividLife
Check out his website for informatio on all the cool work he does here: http://vividlife.me/ultimate/

Featured Tunes:
2nd Date by The Unlovables
Hollow Sounds by Dan Andriano in the Emergency Room
One Great City! by The Weakerthans
Anna’s Song by Teenage Bottlerocket

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Featuring very important production assistant: Luna! And cohost Ashley Bouman!

Coming up: Port Hope Goes Punk
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Top 10 of Season 2:

10. Smokii Sumac, episode 2!

Check out his book here: “You Are Enough: Love Poems for the End of the World”

9. Susan K, episode 17!

Listen to a clip in the episode.

8. Nickola Magnolia, episode 4!

Listen to a live update and live performance of one of her beautiful original songs in the episode.

7. Robert Washburn, episode 26!

6. Josh Noiseux, episode 20!

Listen to a clip in the episode.

5. Katie Hoogandam, episode 23

Listen to a reading of one of the poems from her chapbook, Mothertongue, available at Let’s Talk Books in Cobourg in the episode.

4. Psychedelics, episode 18

Listen to a clip in the episode.

3. Kristie Salter, episode 13

Listen to a clip in the episode.

2. Maureen Pollard, episode 11

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1. Holly Barclay, episode 19

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Featured Tunes:

Corn Dog Sonnet No. 7- Sincere Engineer
Failed Imagineer- Propagandhi
My Favourite Chords- Weakerthans

My grief has looked a lot like
taking the long way home,
ugly sing-screaming to a band all
my friends hate

“I don’t care about anything as much as I used to”

the words another grad school reject
wrote feeling like the ones
I wish i’d written
instead of words with no consistent pattern
no structure
no plan.

But I guess when it comes to grief,
I’ve learned that no plan I make
no work I do
is going to change the simple fact that
I lost them
I might lose this one-
but maybe I won’t.

So when I ugly sing along with
someone who doesn’t know I exist
about beings I’ve lost who never existed
I feel the spark carried by my voice
her words
my meaning
I let it light the candle that
holds some space for hope.

(quote from “Overbite” by Sincere Engineer.)

Check out my interview with Maureen Pollard!

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Maureen has worked in the field of social work since 1991. In private practice since 2011, Maureen is a specialist in traumatic bereavement, helping individuals, families and groups navigate life after losses, including pregnancy and infant loss, child death, suicide loss, homicide loss and sudden or accidental death. Maureen is a certified Compassionate Bereavement Care provider, and she is trained in RTS Bereavement Care (Resolve Through Sharing). In June 2019, she published The Twentieth Year: A Memoir of Miscarriage, a book that tells the story of her journey through multiple miscarriages to parenthood, and how her personal grief experiences influences her work.

 

Social work website: maureenpollardmsw.com 

Author website: maureenmwrites.com

Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/MaureenPollardMSW/

Twitter and Instagram handle: @rhythmsinlife 

We talk about:

  • What inspired her to get into social work and specialize in the things she does
  • What kind of training she draws from in her professional practice
  • Her book, “The Twentieth Year: Memoirs of Miscarriage”
  • The process of writing and publishing her book
  • Being public about recurrent miscarriage and early pregnancy
  • Pregnancy after recurrent miscarriage
  • Grief and peoples’ reactions to it
  • How to maintain professional boundaries as someone working with people who have also experienced recurrent pregnancy loss (and other types of traumatic loss)
  • What Maureen wants people to know about recurrent pregnancy loss
  • What Maureen wants youth and parents of youth to know about mental health and suicide
  • How Maureen’s work has contributed to her being well

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Featured Music by:

Sincere Engineer
David Newland
Ellen Torrie
Cale Crowe

 

LISTEN TO THE EPISODE HERE!

 

When I was a little girl,
I lived in a house with a big garden
that gently sloped into a ravine.
Across the water, lived a willow tree
and when my brother and I
followed the stream against the current,
it lead to an open field full of
huge rocks- islands to our childminds
and we swore the water there was magic.

When mom got sick,
I used to walk up stream to
sit, skinny legs folded up against my chest,
smoke cigarettes, let the stream that
has held me my entire life
hold me then

I questioned a lot then, but never that the water
was magic.

And when she died,
I planted a tree beside her grave
one with purple flowers
like the ones in her garden
like the ones on the kitchen table
passed down from her mother to her
the ones that died when she did

because I’ve never been great with houseplants
but I know a few things about putting down roots.

When I grew up to experience
the first bookend loss,
I drove to Lake Ontario
just like she would have done
and scoured the shore
for a jar full of lake glass
and with my own hope for comfort,
the kind I’ve always felt
rooted in water,
I almost forgot to listen
to the messages she sent through the lake-

Something about collecting and purging
what fills her without any control of her own.

So when the second bookend loss came,
it was waterless winter ice
and it’s taken until spring to thaw
and I can’t help but think that maybe

if I stop

listen

connect

my body

I
motherless child
I
childless mother

might find that I can
simultaneously be
mother-child
to the elements that have held me my whole life
and maybe by feeling held,
I can hold her too.

Check out my interview with Smokii Sumac!

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We talk about:

– His book, “You Are Enough: Love Poems for the End of the World”
– His work on his Ph.D in Indigenous Studies
– Grief
– The way he uses social media
– Lots of reading recommendations!

and more!

Smokii’s Reading List (in the order discussed on this episode!)

1. Indigenous Voices Awards Finalists

2. “Letter to an Emerging Indigenous Writer” by Daniel Heath Justice (Cherokee)

3. My Body is a Book of Rules by Elissa Washuta (Cowlitz)

4. Anything and Everything by Richard Van Camp (Tłı̨chǫ) including his latest Moccasin Square Gardens

5. the Marrow Thieves Cherie Dimaline (Métis)

6. Indian Love Poems by Tenille Campbell (Dene/Métis)

Featured Tunes:

True Trans Soul Rebel by Against Me!
Atmomsphere by Miesha and the Spanks
Night Cruise by The Lonely Parade
Loon Song by Tara Williamson

Check out my conversation with Maggie Robbins!

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Can’t wait to have a friend I love very much back on tonight to follow up on our conversation (about things like radical inclusivity and rape culture in gynaecology) from episode 46.

At 8pm on Northumberland 89.7 FM Small Town Radio tonight, tune in to join Maggie Robbins and I while we talk about:
– the response from our previous episode (we got stories!)
– an update on Maggie’s battle with cancer
– Trauma as a means of individual and community healing
– parenting through trauma
– leaving space for reaction
– balancing reaction and response
– cannabis as part of a wholistic wellness plan

Featured Tunes:
Let’s Fall in Love by Tiny Stills
Baby I by Amy Millan
Done by Frazey Ford
Dancing in the Dark by The Ruth Moody Band